8.1 Bali Bombing Survivor Carren Smith

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It is my great pleasure to share this absolutely amazing ‘that moment’ interview with Bali Bombing Survivor Carren Smith.

Imagine losing the love of your life to suicide, feeling racked with guilt only to find that you are pregnant with their child sadly to lose that blessing shortly after to miscarriage as you fall deeper into a black hole of darkness.

Through severe depression, and not being able to find light through your depths of sorrow, you make the only decision that feels right at the time and decide there is only one way to extinguish your endless pain and that is to follow the same path. A path that would cease your grief once and for all.

You book a plane to another country, to end your life quietly away from your loved ones at home. Your friends, fear for your suicidal condition and will not let you travel alone. In the throws of enjoying your final moments with dear friends the unthinkable happens. A bomb goes off and changes everything in a split second.

In this interview Carren shares ‘that moment’ and how it has impacted her life and put her on the path she now lives. It is one of the most inspirational interviews I have ever had the pleasure of conducting and I know you will be moved and inspired by her story. Enjoy.

My Secret To Success

So What Helped Me Create A Success Shift?

Some of you probably won’t believe me and that is fine, but this is the honest truth. When I was in the corporate world for 25 years, the thing that got me to the top fast was taking myself out of my comfort zone and trying things I had never done before.

  • I’d volunteer to help out in other departments when I was not busy
  • I would volunteer to do another person’s job when they were sick
  • I volunteered to organise all the events
  • I asked my boss to give me money to learn a new skill so they did not have to outsource it any more
  • Bottom line is, I just kept putting my hand up until I got to the top!

That is easy you may say, you had a guaranteed income, you had a job!

I totally understand, and you are right I did have a job. But when I found myself freaking out after I left my job, realising that I had a baby to support and  that failure was not an option, I soon discovered  I needed to figure out fast how I could use that same mindset to move forward in my own business and support my family.

What a wake-up call that  was… you see, the more scared I got, the less I implemented and the more my business suffered.

  • I hated doing videos
  • I hated public speaking
  • I hated having my photo taken
  • I did not like networking events
  • I had absolutely no internet marketing skills
  • And to be honest, for an outgoing person, I really was quite the introvert

But do you know what I hated more?

Failing!

Being an ‘A’ grade student all my life, and succeeding in the corporate world, definitely set me up with the mindset that failing was not an option. But then one day my mentor told me I was looking at it the wrong way.

What if I actually had a go, made some mistakes, but learned something new that would help me grow my business faster, would that be failing?

When I thought about it, I realised that by not having a go, I was failing more and that through some of my stuff ups, I’d actually became quite skilled along the way.

In fact, when I actually sat back and looked at how far I’d come, from a complete beginner in business, I was pleasantly surprised.

You see I was focusing on all the things I could not do and all the things I had not accomplished instead of all the things I had achieved in a very short period of time. That was a huge learning curve for me.

Key Lesson To Me….

Focus on the growth, not the ‘yet to learn’ or the ‘hiccups’ along the way.

But I still lacked self-confidence in this online world.

I was so much out of my comfort zone that it kept me in spin trying to master it all. Anyone here know that feeling?

So I had to dig deep to figure out a way to overcome this fear of….

  • making a mistake
  • people laughing at me
  • not fitting in with the online ‘boys club’
  • comparing myself to all the other successful women so far ahead of me
  • not knowing what I was doing and worst of all;
  • someone actually figuring out that I had no idea what I was doing [shock horror]

Yes for the first 3 years as an entrepreneur I had all these fears going around in my head too.

But then I figured out a way to overcome them and it worked!

To Your Success

Yep I am going to share with you my #1 Success Secret… Drum Roll!!!!

I dared myself to do it! …..Ta Dah!

You see there is nothing, I mean nothing that irks me more, or gets me more riled than someone telling me I CAN’T do something.

Ask my husband he will tell you. If ever he wants me to do something he tells me he does not think I can do it, knowing that it is like waiving a red flag to a bull with VERY SHARP HORNS!

But there is a few exceptions to the rules eg. when it comes to cooking, or the dishes, then I run in the other direction happily 🙂

My first PROFITABLE Dare!

I remember when I bought my first home in my early thirties and the guy I was dating at the time did not want to buy a house even though I really wanted to.

I remember his words clear as day, You will need to find a minimum of $13k for a deposit, you will never save that amount”.

I said to him, “If I save $13k will you do it?”

He said, “Yep, not going to happen” and went back to having a beer smirking to himself that a woman could save any money at all.

Well it took me exactly 12 weeks to save $13k and I went on to put an offer on our first home. But what was even smarter, I dumped him 12 mths later, bought him out of the house and doubled my money within 3 years! Look whose laughing now!

Gosh I wish I’d remembered this sooner…

Hindsight is a wonderful thing, which is why I am sharing this with you now so you don’t have to wait to figure it out yourself.

These days when I am scared to do something, I set myself a challenge and a deadline to achieve it. Why? 

Because I hate to not meet a deadline [Corporate deadlines have become my best learned skill, thank you  Corporate Job!].

So my question to you is this…

If I set you a challenge are you game to see if you can do it?

Are you ready to create the exact same Success Shift in your business, your life and your mindset?

If the answer is yes, and you want to succeed faster and easier than you’ve ever thought possible, then make sure to watch the Dare Challenge on Monday.

Just so you know, yes I still use this in my business today in fact….I am going through a personal Dare at the moment. It is totally freaking me out, but

  • the vision is clear
  • the deadline is set and;
  • the impact to others is huge and that is my driving force.

Fear of failure

Do you have a fear of failure?

Or even worse….do you have a fear of success?

Come on, I want you to be honest with yourself.

  • Did 2014 turn out exactly as you planned 12 months ago?
  • Has another 12 months passed and it’s still the same old, same old, you know the story, two steps forward and three steps back?
  • Or perhaps you’ve had minor growth but nowhere near your projections at the beginning of the year leaving you feeling pretty deflated after 12 months of hard work with little to show for it?

Don’t worry it’s not your fault…

Listen, it is not your fault, because this use to be me too. The yo yo roller coaster ride of being  a woman entrepreneur totally frustrated while the old self-confidence has taken a beating!

But what I figured out is… that it does not have to be this way. You do not have to go another year…

  • Second guessing yourself
  • Watching other women surpass their goals while you stay on the treadmill
  • Wondering what might have been if you just had a go
  • Or why everyone else is booming while your still where you are

Can you relate to this? Or are you still pretending?

I see this all the time, in my forums, at my events and with my private clients. Excuse after excuse, when deep down I know the underlying issue is fear and lack of self belief. Remember, I have lived this fear many times myself so I know the symptoms well.. But the difference with me is that I have  learned to channel my fear  into my business in a productive way instead of letting it control my results [ or lack thereof].

Failing is part of the game of success.

When I figured this out I took a big sigh of relief.

Do you honestly think I get it right every time? Heck no! In fact I fail more times than I win, but each one of those mistakes has become a stepping stone to my success story that I live today.

Are you ready to get off the ‘ground hog day’ treadmill in 2015?

Seriously, if you are fed up with another year of similar or tiny growth, and really want to boost your awesomeness next year, then keep your eyes out for a Dare I have prepared for you to create your Success Shift starting Monday!

Not for the faint hearted.

  • If you are already in holiday mode and can’t be bothered till next year…don’t watch the video on Monday!
  • If you are happy cruising year after year and are not driven to go higher in 2015, …definitely do not watch the video!
  • Or, if you are just plain lazy, and expect it all to fall in your lap, probably time to unsubscribe, because you will make more money in a job!

But if you are up for a challenge and a huge SUCCESS SHIFT and..

  • Know you are ready to unleash your awesomeness
  • Know you are ready to double or triple your results next year
  • Know you are ready to step out of your comfort zone and live the dream
  • Know you are ready to push past any fear or limiting beliefs from 2014

Then you are going to love the video! See you on Monday with your ‘super easy’ challenge!

Inner Awesomeness